I don't know-Im getting the suspicion that these days the faerie folk want you to leave out a Bacardi Breezer and top up cards for their mobile phones. Maybe we have a worse class of non-trad faerie round here or something.

Life is all about holes and what we fill them with-about leave takings, emerging possibilities and change. Newness is important and usually comes with a price. But the results can be great.

Your post reminded me of an old devotional prayer Rick Wakeman (damn Im showing my age even mentioning the guy) put to music:

"I asked for strength that I might achieve;
I was made weak that I might learn humbly to obey
I asked for health that I might do greater things;
I was given infirmity that I might do better things
I asked for riches that I might be happy;
I was given poverty that I might be wise
I asked for power that I might have the praise of men;
I was given weakness that I might feel the need of God
I asked for all things that I might enjoy life;
I was given life that I might enjoy all things
I got nothing I had asked for, but everything that I had hoped for
Almost despite myself my unspoken prayers were answered;
I am, amongst all men, most richly blessed"

Learning to take what life gives you and make good of it is perhaps the wisest thing we can do.