Manners and signals

[smokingboot]

It has been a long time since I have been with a lot of people unknown to me, the last time I did it was to support a couple of friends in putting something together. And it was OK, I was as I always have been. If I'm wearing a mask I am unaware of it at the time; the vibe fits and I fit the vibe, and it's fun. Some people want to be friendly, some want to come closer. One of these latter seems like a delicate, sensible, intelligent man, and would like us to meet up to discuss things.

He's a nice guy but this is a direct come on, and I feel very awkward. It's not like I think this about every friend who asks me out, but even with friends like Steve I would make sure to have another chum present, not because he would ever try anything, but because that's how I feel comfortable.

I think this man must have got the wrong impression, probably my fault, my signal. For the meeting I tried to be welcoming, but had no idea I had given off any further vibe. It wasn't my intention. We all spoke very pleasantly, he knows I am engaged, everybody talked about witchy things... there was no angle. I didn't mean to flirt with him in any way. And yet somehow this stuff turns up.

In any case I must deflect him. Don't want to offend this guy, didn't mean to lead him on and am not sure of how or even if I did. Got to take a little responsibility and answer his message honestly and gently.

I feel so over all this kind of thing. Why is it following me?

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Re: Excellent advice...

[smokingboot.livejournal.com]

Inadvertently. Blimey, I must be sleepy.